People disappoint me. My main issue is dependability. It makes me angry when I feel that I can't count on someone, especially emotionally.
I can count the number of times when I have been pushed to the limit stressed beyond belief and the very person that you thought would call you or be there for you wasn't anywhere around. I can give you names, dates, maybe even what I was wearing because I couldn't believe so and so wasn't there for me when I needed them most. Because that person was certainly around for...shopping...or gossiping....or going out to the club. Or any other extra-curricular activities.
But I realized recently (today in fact) that people will in fact disappoint me. My solution in the past has been to cut the person off, either by giving them a piece of my mind and not speaking to them again or just ignoring them as if they never existed. Once I see you in a different light after my disappointment I believe that things won't ever be the same because I know that I can no longer count on you.
But I know that that is not the right way to handle disappointments. I know that people will not always do the things that you expect them to, and it doesn't matter what role you've played in their lives. I need to look at what type of person they are at heart. If I can deal with the disappointment, I will try to just suck it up and not hold a grudge. Or I may decide to remove that person from my inner circle and place them in my outer circle and we'll be cool but I'll keep them at arm's length. But if I believe that you are a selfish person who only cares about themselves then it's curtains for the relationship.
So whenever someone disappoints me I've decided that I am going to take the focus off of myself and do something for someone else. Volunteer, call and check on someone who I haven't spoken to in a while, write a thank you card, or commit a random act of kindness. Any other ideas on things I can do for others? (Free of course.)
boys jacket:thrifted and borrowed
necklaces: Forever 21
belt: thrifted by Reiko
Let's hope these instances will be few and far between. I'm currently feeling this way so I'm trying to turn a negative into a positive....